I never thought I’d end up in a serious relationship with a christian man and center-
right-wing politician but that’s exactly what happened here in Brussels.
Funny how life truly works in mysterious ways.
I tend to be a free-spirited artist, who continuously try and deconstruct all the things I’ve
been taught as a kid, which I swallowed but always completely felt that they weren’t for
me.
There is nothing I fear more than the norm and traditional values. I radically escaped
those in my twenties —finding peace— allowing me to cultivate now a more nuanced
and curious perspective on them. But I still remain a dreamer, very left-wing, politically
furious about the current news and exploring queerness through daily efforts of pushing
boundaries for a more fluid world in gender looks and roles and in everything else.
But one night, as I was proposing on Grindr to draw people as nude models, I saw him.
Even though I drew 5 other men before him, there is something in his profile that felt so
familiar as if I already knew exactly how he would be and how he would behave.
I treated him differently by omitting the drawing part and proposed to meet for a
massage directly.
I gave him my address in Sablons, told him to climb 3 floors and opened the door almost
naked just wearing my loose linen underwear. I didn’t speak much, but stared a lot. I
liked what I saw. He was indeed exactly how I thought he’d be. He nervously asked many
questions about myself in a row until I cut him and suggested to get to the massage.
He started massaging my back, as we agreed. It wasn’t great. But then I massaged his. I
loved his body. The smell, the hairiness, the slight chubbiness too but positive manliness
overall. I went everywhere, from the back to the arms, then legs to the feet, and finally
the ass cheeks. I laid my body on his and started to lick his ear. He started to softly moan.
From this moment we both knew we’d go beyond a simple back massage, and we did.
I’ve been dating this man for 8 months now and we are radically opposite. He has a
mathematical, economic and liberal perspective of the world and I still catch myself
dreaming of a people revolution from the bottom up where we destroy all city roads and
grow food on every street.
Funny how I date the very same thing I strongly parted with.
I wonder how long it will last.
