About You
• Introduce yourself in a few words.
→ Hi, I’m Patrick. 😘 I’d say some fitting words are quirky, cheerful, fun to be around. At the same time: thoughtful, always happy to help people and make them have a good time. Good listener. ENFJ-T personality, apparently.
• Where are you right now (physically or emotionally)?
→ So far at the best place I’ve been in my life, especially emotionally. Got rid of things and people which dragged me down in the past, worked on myself, now I’m living my best life and try to experience things I couldn’t in my teens/20s.
• What is your favorite place on earth?
→ In my partner’s arms while he gently strokes my head. Either that, or being surrounded by bunnies on Ōkunoshima island (seriously, check that out).
• What has been on your mind lately?
→ We opened up our relationship and I’ve met some new, interesting – and hot – people. Trying to process all the new experiences, emotions and situations definitely keeps my mind busy, but in a positive way.
• What’s a small thing that brings you joy?
→ Seeing people smile in public.
• Your favorite piece of clothing or accessory?
→ My purple base cap from Keller Kreuzberg with “Cute Slut” embroidered on it
• What’s something people often misunderstand about you?
→ Just because I’m friendly and have basic decency doesn’t mean I’m interested in having sex with you.
• Something or someone that you are currently obsessed with?
→ My obsessions change often, but right now it’s … old Pokémon games, for some reason
Body & Relationship
• What attracts you to someone?
→ Either if someone is really cute, short, and makes me want to hug them tight (and maybe, if consent is there, dominate them in some way), or if a guy is tall, muscular, hairy, the muscle-bear type, with a friendly face and character who does the same to me.
• What makes you feel desired?
→ People showing me they want me as a person for both my character and my appearance.
• What is a part of your body you appreciate?
→ My face, legs and ass.
• How do you see yourself when you look at your photos?
→ I’ve changed a lot in the last few years, and I often forget that I actually do look like I’m hitting the gym.
• How has the relationship with your body changed over time?
→ Immensely. I was overweight in my teenage years, then lost a lot of weight in unhealthy ways in my early 20s. After being extremely slim I got into weight training and added some mass back on, though I’m still not fully at the point where I’m just happy with what I am and have. That takes some more work on the inside, rather than in the gym.
• Red flags and green flags in a relationship/date
→ Red flags: Treating others badly (especially service staff and animals), hubris, talking about superficial things non-stop, ignoring your own privileges, lying.
Green flags: Being able to have meaningful and deep talks, honesty, being attentive, confident but not cocky. Eye contact, but in a comfortable way.
• Your ideal location for a date?
→ Good coffee in hand and going for a long walk through the park.
• Flirty or shy at first?
→ Flirty, but if you’re extremely attractive and my type, then also shy.
• Tell us about a crush you have had.
→ Jason Statham. Buff, tall, bald guys with beards just do things to my mind.
Sex & Intimacy
• When do you feel most connected during sex?
→ When there’s a natural flow going on, communication happens through actions and not words, when you feel the rhythm of the other person and you fully adapt to each other. When you stop thinking completely and just experience what’s going on.
• What turns you on (physically, emotionally, mentally)?
→ A mix of being fit, hunky, confident, but friendly at the same time. Having a soft, authentic, caring side.
• What makes a sexual experience feel good beyond the physical?
→ Trust, the absence of pressure or expectations, the feeling of being able to let go of everything and dive into your own pleasure. Being desired for who you are.
• What do you wish people were more open about when it comes to sex?
→ That it’s okay to like what you like and that you don’t have to fit in a specific role all the time. Also, not everything has to be about sex, but it’s nothing to be ashamed of at all as long as nobody gets harmed without their consent.
• Any kinks?
→ Sub/Dom, but not always. Still in the process of revealing new ones.
• Tell us a fantasy of yours.
→ Having fun with several guys at the same time, being the center of attention, with them lining up to enjoy what I have to offer.
• Use a few words to describe what good sex is to you?
→ Fun. Liberating. A way to forget every-day life.
• Share a memorable experience (without going into too many details):
→ Going through several sessions all night with a random Grindr hookup during summer, having to clean up the AirBnB the next morning because *everything* was messy afterwards.
Finally
• Tell us one random thing about you:
→ I have a Jigglypuff tattoo and I’m so fucking happy because of it.