Name / Nickname: Cris
Instagram: @xcrissuxx
About You
• Introduce yourself in a few words.
→ I am Cris, 33yo, living in Barcelona and working in IT.
I could say I am enjoying life right now, feeling happy with myself and the people around me.
• Where are you right now (physically or emotionally)?
→ I live in the wonderful city of Barcelona and I started a relationship recently. Right now I feel like I can open myself up and be more vulnerable.
• What is your favorite place on earth?
→ Japan, without a doubt. I admire both the beauty and the culture Japan represents. Ever since I was a little kid I watched anime and read manga wishing one day I would visit it. This dream is yet to come but I am sure one day I will make it happen.
• What has been on your mind lately?
→ I have been thinking a lot about the result of our actions and honesty; in the city I live, nowadays, not a lot of people show their true self or make actions that go beyond themselves. I think it is a process we all go through, we feel lonely, we shut ourselves down and look for immediate pleasure. Sometimes we need to cross that border and explore beyond that. Only honesty and vulnerability will attract the right people your way.
• What’s a small thing that brings you joy?
→ I love to see people smiling and having fun; taking care of others and make them feel comfortable and in a good space is important. I am always laying jokes around and waiting for people’s reaction – it is priceless to see someone smiling, that joy.
• What’s something people often misunderstand about you?
→ Sometimes people might think I am cold because I have a huge resting bitch face 😊 I am quite an introvert (especially when meeting new people – first contact) and sometimes I struggle to start a conversation. People around me always laugh about the first encounter – because it is quite different from who I really am. I am working on trying to be more open and put that shyness aside.
• Something or someone that you are currently obsessed with?
→ My boyfriend (laughs). To be honest, I am quite obsessed with going to the gym; for me it is a place of peace, makes me put my mind at ease and disconnected from everything.
Body & Relationship
• What attracts you to someone?
→ Honesty. I don’t care about looks or judging a book by its cover. I need to see how you really are inside, whether you are kind or not. Looks can change but the inside will stay there, you can work with it, nonetheless some conducts are forever.
Honesty and kindness will make a guy 100% hotter than the rest.
• What makes you feel desired?
→ Physical touch and intimacy. There is nothing like having contact with someone you love and being caressed and desired by it. I think it is both sensual and sexual in a way. To create a safe space where you can connect with someone.
• What is a part of your body you appreciate?
→ I would say my legs. I used to not like them at all but then I started noticing that they are quite different and in that I found their beauty.
Sometimes we judge ourselves too harshly and hide the beauty we already have and don’t see.
• How do you see yourself when you look at your photos?
→ You made it! Now I can look at my pictures and find me attractive. I don’t need to have a perfect body, just embrace it and love it.
• How has the relationship with your body changed over time?
→ I hated my body and learnt how to appreciate it now. Sometimes we are in our heads and everything we see is bad things about ourselves. We need to appreciate our body as being unique and that it is ok to not have a normative body.
• Red flags and green flags in a relationship/date
→ Being sincere and welcoming – Looking at the eyes of the other person 🡪 Green flag.
Looking around while you speak – Checking your phone every now and then 🡪 Red flag.
• Your ideal location for a date?
→ It doesn’t need to be a perfect place, just the perfect person. When you are around someone you love or appreciate, you can even be on a desert island where you are going to have a good time and become that ideal location.
• Flirty or shy at first?
→ I am super super super (super again) shy. After two beers it gets better.
I got better with my shyness but I still have some thingies to work with.
Sex & Intimacy
• When do you feel most connected during sex?
→ When I can hold that person and look directly into his eyes, the eye contact is followed by touch and kissing his lips.
• What turns you on (physically, emotionally, mentally)?
→ Connection and kissing. Vulnerability. Honesty.
• What makes a sexual experience feel good beyond the physical?
→ When you get to the point of trust with that person, I believe then you can experience and do a lot of things. In my case I experimented doing different things just by having someone I trust by my side and then feel comfortable to distinguish what I like and I don’t like.
Finally
• Tell us one random thing about you:
→ I love having sex while listening to music. I enjoy creating a cute playlist for it.
Sex and music combined can go deep in your brain and make you feel thousands of emotions at once.